Dating Tips - Hey Dave, Great news.

Hey Dave,

Great news. I tried C + F with a girl I've known
for over a year as a friend but would never dream
of "approaching"...

I asked her advice about fashion and took her
shopping with me for clothes. I busted on her the
whole time about looking at my ass, etc. So a few
days later I get a call. "What do you like to
drink? How 'bout I stop by with some beers and
hang out?"

Between our second and third lovemaking sessions
she apologizes for taking up my time, and
confesses that she's not really looking for a
relationship right now. Hopes I'm not mad. Pure
gold, man. This woman is ten years younger and the
highest paid stripper at a local bar. I'm broke,
short, bald, cocky, and funny. Go figure. Thanks a
million. Don't print my name, but DO send me your
advanced class ASAP!

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah, bummer... isn't it?

While you might not have found the ultimate
"wife" material, it doesn't sound to me like you
mind the free fashion advice (oh, and free BEER).

Interesting Question:

Why is it that the highest paid dancer at a
local bar... one who has literally hundreds and
hundreds of men around her that would pay her, buy
her anything, and worship her like a queen...
would rather buy beer and bring it to an older,
short, bald, cocky, funny guy and then say "I'm
sorry if I'm wasting your time... I'm not looking
for a relationship"?

Interesting Answer:

Because she doesn't need a clingy, loser,
psycho, WUSSY, sketchy jackass who calls her 47
times a day to ask her what she's doing and say "I
miss you, when can I see you again".

Powerful.


***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***

Hi,

I would be most grateful for some help/advice if
you could assist. = I am bi sexual fem women,
and have recently met a beautiful women, my type
very fem, and I really like this women. She has
been hurt by men in the past, and is just going
through a phase in her life at the moment where
she needs to be with women. She has been with 2
other women including me before.

To cut a long story short, I dont know how to
charm her, make her like me more and become a
magnet towards her?. I'm not chasing after her
because i suspect that most men have done this
before, and because I am a women i want to play it
cool. She has already indicated that she wants
fun then see what happens, but I understand that
nothing could ever come of it because her family
and friends dont know she is bi, and she comes
from a relatively posh family.

Have you got any suggestions you could give me
please.

Thank you for spending time in reading the
above, and I await to hear from you in great
anticipation.

S.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You know, why is it that when you finally get
an email you WISH was longer, it says "To cut a
long story short"?

Whatever.

OK, I'm closing my eyes right now... and making
an image in my mind of you and your new-found babe
in a room together...

You're wondering how to make her feel A STRONG
ATTRACTION to you... but you just can't figure it
out...

All of a sudden, the door opens up, and I come
walking in to the rescue...

I sit down between you and your girlfriend, and
I give you that knowing look...

You instantly understand that I'm going to help
you get what you want... and you feel a deep and
profound appreciation for me...

...

...

...

You know, this imaginary thing never was very
good for me.

OK, back to reality...

Look, you're asking a question just like a
Wussy guy would ask.

You're in a TEXTBOOK situation...

And if you don't get control of yourself and
your emotions, you're going to screw this up real
good.

Pause. Deep breaths. Sit in the lotus position
or something.

Here's the formula for making this girl want to
be with you:

Great Experiences + Missing You

Got it?

When you're with her, make it ENJOYABLE.

Don't put any kind of weird emotional pressure
on her.

Don't ask "Do you think you could be with
someone like me in a long-term relationship?".

Don't cling.

Don't call her all the time.

When you do spend time with her, make sure you
and she are having a GREAT TIME.

And then end every interaction with her while
it's on an UP note... and just a little bit too
soon.

Like a great movie, end it at a "climax".

"Huh... Huh... He thaid "climaxth". Yeah Yeah!"

And as you've heard me say before, give her the
GIFT of MISSING YOU.

You're on the right track by "playing it cool".

Now add fun, excitement, and MYSTERY to the
equation.

Give her experiences she can't forget, and then
give her room to think about you, wonder where you
are, and chase you until she's caught.


***COMMENT***

Just what kind of conversations are you having
with these lil girls? Don't you find it better to
have someone that can stimulate your mind as well
as your member? I must say that my personal
opinion is that you have low self-esteem and base
your self worth on the trophy you carry by your
side...Grow up ya mental midget.......

Sincerely, K.D.C.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I've included this to make an example... this
is the type of person to watch out for while
you're learning how to be successful with women
and online dating... they have nothing useful to offer,
only negativity.

This is someone who doesn't get it, doesn't get
ANY, and isn't going to help you.

This person would be glad to sit all night and
tell you why it's a bad idea for you to have fun
free online dating all the fun women you're dating because
none of them are "marriage material".

REVELATION: Duh.

But while you're FINDING that rare and
fantastic woman who can stimulate your mind, body,
emotions, and "member", you might as well enjoy
yourself...

And to answer the question:

The kind of conversations I'm having with these
"lil girls" is the kind that challenges them,
makes them feel ATTRACTION, and makes them realize
how BORING negative people like you are.

'Nuff said.


***SUCCESS STORY***

David!

Where do I even begin to tell you about the
changes that have taken place in my life since I
read your e-book?

I used to be the classic wussy. While reading
your book, and reading about the things that you
said were exactly what NOT to do, it was painful
for me. But a wake-up call at the same time! It
allowed me to pinpoint what went wrong in every
failed relationship or unsuccessful interaction
with females I've ever had.

I've always been naturally cocky and funny, but
I never figured it would be a successful method to
use around women as I was too focused on coming
across as, "A nice guy she could take home to
dad." I used to ALWAYS become a submissive wuss in
frilly pink panties everytime I was around
attractive girls. Maaannn, was I ever wrong, and
thank you for showing me the light!

I'm currently in sales, and a few months ago had
found myself falling for a customer service rep
for one of the companies whos products I sell. She
has every quality a man could want. She's 23, (I
just turned 20) gorgeous, confident, intelligent,
and she has a cheeky little attitude that is
sooooo easy for the cocky and funny man to have
fun with! From the start, I just continued to bust
her balls non-stop and I LOVE teasing her for her
minor insecurities (she is short, claustrophobic
and has a bit of a bratty attitude, among many
others). I call her a bratty little child, laugh
at her and call her "cute" in a sarcastic tone
when she tries to act cocky. I told her I was
going to show her the city and she could buy me
dinner for my effort! lol. It worked like a
charm.

Shes definitely a keeper, and its time to take
things to the next level! I don't expect I will
have ANY problems maintaining this one thanks to
the gold that IS your e-book!

Not to mention, my newly improved attitude and
high level of inner confidence have ran-off into
all aspects of my life. I've never felt better!

$19.97 changed my life!

Thanks again,

B in BC

>>>MY COMMENTS:

PRINT THAT!

And the reality is that YOU changed your
life... and I'm glad I could help.

Make sure you don't forget what you're learning
and turn into a girly-man in about 6 months like
most guys do.

Keep up the good work, and keep the girl.


***QUESTION***

Dave,

Like everyone else I have to say your book did
wonders for me. I wouldn't dream of asking a girl
for her# after just meeting her (classic wussy
rejection fear). Now, what do I care if she gives
it to me or not there's another looker 10 feet
away.

One thing I would like to add to the table,
maybe i missed it the first time i read the book,
what do you do if C&F doesn't have enough F and
you jut offended her?

My personal situation that happens often because
I like to see live bands, is that I'll be talking
to a girl and (long story short) say "Man, this
band really sucks" to which she makes a comment
and
walks away. I have since learned to apologize...I
don't feel it's wussy if it works. Now the
scenario is:

"This band really Sucks. 'Hey, I like this band.'
"Oh Im sorry....Not for saying that, but that you
like this band."

Every time I pull out that comment the girls
turn around and continue conversation.

So thanks dave for turning my social life around.
I still have a lot to learn though, so men of the
world dont just send in your success stories send
in the tip that you had to figure out on your own.

PT Superior, WI

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I like the direction you're going...

But, I think you need to tweak it just a
little.

Saying "This band sucks" to a total stranger
just isn't funny dating.

If you say, "Hey, do you LIKE this band?" and
she says, "Yeah" and you say, "Doesn't surprise
me, what - are you the guitar players sister?"...

That's a little more where you want to go.

It's funny, but it's also kind of unclear. It
involves the woman you're talking to without her
really being able to catch on to what you mean.

You answered your own question: ADD MORE FUNNY.

Cocky guys attract women... that's reality.

But, guys who are ONLY cocky also upset and
offend a lot of women... but they don't care,
because they only care about themselves.

Add more funny... it's much better for her, and
for you.


***QUESTION***

Hi, Dave.

I try to read all your newsletters -- I'm
married for 12 years and trying to figure out how
to de-wussify my self. It's not easy, and you
don't help even a little because you don't give
"relationship advice." But I try to find ways to
be unpredictable and cocky + funny with my wife...
And any other woman I meet. I'm a religious
professional, so I've got some real limitations to
work within, but I'm pretty sure teasing women
isn't a sin, and it lights me up.

I went through a phase where I figured you wrote
the letters. But having read them for a while now,
I'm convinced you're not that kind of genius.
"Pick the one with more money." -- I was worried
someone at my office was going to ask me why I was
laughing so loud. "You suck and all men wish they
were you." Well, as a religious professional, I
have to say you suck double.

Here's one example of what I did right. (I think.)
She was in the shower, so I walked in too. Her:
"You came into my shower." Me: "Wouldn't you if
you were me and there was a beautiful, steamy,
sexy naked woman in here?" Her: "I suppose so."
Me: "But you'll have to do." Her: (Total shift in
attitude.) "Hey, mister, you're loosing
opportunities that way." Me: "I've got
opportunities coming out of my ears."

(I'm not sure she believed that, but I couldn't
think what else to say.)

She didn't make any moves that day, but the next
day she was happily receptive.

Still if you have any advice on how to stimulate
attraction in a woman who's seen you at your
wussiest I'd love to hear it. I'm not walking out
of the relationship or going to introducing
"distance" that would be unfitting for a couple
married for a long while, so don't go there. But
I'd love to get some more ideas of how to push her
buttons.

J, Denver

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I don't know, there's just something about a
guy who tells me "You suck double" that I just
can't resist... OK, so you tugged at my heart-
strings a little with the "I'm a religious
professional who's been married 12 years and I
want to make my wife dig me more" bit.

You're doing pretty well.

I like the whole shower routine... right up
until the very last part.

When she shifted tone and said, "Hey, mister,
you're losing opportunities that way" and you
answered, "I've got opportunities coming out of my
ears", you went off course.

Instead, when she says, "You're losing
opportunities that way", say, "I'm the opportunity
here, and you might want to take advantage of it
while it's available"... then splash some water on
her, shower her, wink at her, and GET OUT.

Have you ever played with a dog?

How do you make a dog LOVE you?

You chase it, then run away.

What does the dog do?

Of course, it chases YOU.

Then it might get tired... so you chase it a
little again... and then run away.

You've been acting like a Wuss for 12 years.

Keep evicting the inner Wuss more and more over
time, and who knows? You might actually become
interesting to your wife again...