Archive for May 11th, 2008

Virtual Dating

Sunday, May 11th, 2008

According to Scientific American, Virtual Dating is “the next step in online dating” (Feb/March 2007, p.35) [7].

Virtual Dating combines online dating with online gaming. Through the use of avatars, singles interact in a virtual venue that resembles a real life dating environment. For example, individuals can meet and chat in a romantic virtual cafe in Paris or on a Caribbean resort.

A Time Magazine article entitled “Internet Dating 2.0″ was published on January 19, 2007 citing current and upcoming technologies and explains how people can now connect in a virtual dating environment. Time describes how websites are allowing people to meet for an avatar based, graphically enabled virtual date without leaving their homes. [8]

According to NBC [9] and TIME[10], OmniDate is one example of virtual online dating.

Researchers at MIT and Harvard have found that “people who had had a chance to interact with each other (by computer only) on a virtual tour of a museum subsequently had more successful face-to-face meetings than people who had viewed only profiles.”

Online Dating Trends

Sunday, May 11th, 2008

U.S. residents spent $469.5 million on online dating and personals in 2004, and over $500 million in 2005, the second largest segment of “paid content” on the web, according to a study conducted by the Online Publishers Association (OPA) and comScore Networks.

At the end of November 2004, there were 844 lifestyle and dating sites, a 38 percent increase since the start of the year, according to Hitwise Inc. However, market share was increasingly being dominated by several large commercial services, including Yahoo! Personals, Match.com, and eHarmony. Former eHarmony CEO and son-in-law to founder Dr. Neil Clark Warren -the guy in the commercials, Greg Forgatch noted that despite the growing number of sites catering to specific niches, “to become a major player, it still takes a large number of people.” By 2007, many prominent studies show that Baby Boomer interest in online dating had soared. [1]

In 2002, a Wired magazine article forecast that, “Twenty years from now, the idea that someone looking for love without looking for it online will be silly, akin to skipping the card catalog to instead wander the stacks because ‘the right books are found only by accident.’ Serendipity is the hallmark of inefficient markets, and the marketplace of love, like it or not, is becoming more efficient” [2].

Of late, it is common to see free dating online websites providing webcam chats between members to make dating even more convenient than ever. In addition, as the online dating population becomes larger, sites with specific demographics are becoming more popular as a way to narrow the pool of potential matches. According to online personals expert Mark Brooks from onlinepersonalswatch.com, online dating sites are adding features including handwriting analysis to match like-minded mates too.[3]

He also stated that most successful niche sites pair people by race, sexual orientation or religion.[4] The 20 most popular dating sites this year as ranked by Hitwise include JDate (for Jewish singles), Christian Mingle and Christian Cafe, Manhunt (for gay men), Love From India, Black Christian People Meet, Amigos (for Latino singles), Asian People Meet, and Shaadi (for Indian singles). [4] In March 2008, the top 5 overall sites held 7% less market share than they did one year ago while the top sites from the top five major niche dating categories made considerable gains. [5]

One of the hottest trends is the Babyboomers on the top dating sites. Around 30% of the nation’s 80 million Baby Boomers are single.[6]

Online Dating

Sunday, May 11th, 2008

A Net dating service, also known as online dating or Internet dating, is an example of a dating system and allows individuals, couples and groups to meet online and possibly develop a romantic or sexual relationship. Net dating services provide un-moderated matchmaking through the use of personal computers, the Internet, or even cell phones.

Such services generally allow people to provide personal information, then search for other individuals using criteria such as age range, gender and location. Most sites allow members to upload photos of themselves and browse the photos of others. Sites may offer additional services, such as webcasts, online chat, and message boards. Sites sometimes allow people to register for free but may offer services which require a monthly fee.

Many sites are broad-based, with members from a variety of backgrounds looking for different types of relationships. Other sites are more specific, based on the type of members, interests, location, or relationship desired.

dating problems and misunderstandings

Sunday, May 11th, 2008

When individuals use the framework of dating for purposes other than assessing their date’s suitability for them, misunderstandings can arise. One or both partners may initiate or accept dating invitations due to peer pressure, attention, a desire to escape from a social environment which they find stifling, a desire for acceptance, or a desire to humiliate; these motives can be strong enough to cause the person to deceive themselves and others when challenged, claiming and believing that they are mainly acting in good faith. This can lead to being “stood up”.[citation needed]

These problems have led to a number of local dating coaches springing up around USA. Dating Coach teaches face to face or over the phone how to interact with opposite gender and improve dating skills. It seems that some specialize in coaching men, some specialize in coaching women, and some coach both.

Methods to find dates

Sunday, May 11th, 2008
  • Online dating: Instead of using a traditional matchmaker, online dating uses specifically targeted websites to meet new people.
  • Speed dating: Where a group of people get together for several hours in a public place to get to know one another better. At one of these speed dating events, each person usually sits with another single member for a set period of time to get to know them better, and then at the predetermined time is asked to move and sit with someone else to repeat the process.
  • Mobile dating/cell phone dating: Where text messages to and from a mobile/cell phone carrier are used to show interest in others on the system. Can be web-based or online dating as well depending on the company.
  • Virtual dating: A combination of video game playing and dating, where users create avatars and spend time in virtual worlds in an attempt to meet other avatars with the purpose of meeting for potential dates.
  • Singles events: Where a group of singles are brought together to take part in various events for the purposes of meeting new people. Events can include such things as parties, workshops and games.

Types of Dates

Sunday, May 11th, 2008
  • Regular date.
  • Double date: two couples meet for an activity.
  • Group date: an activity shared by two or more couples.
  • Blind date: a date where the participants have not met each other personally before (although may have seen each other’s pictures); usually set up by a third party or an internet dating service.
  • Long Distance / Holidating: Due to a long distance relationship, dating only when one, or both parties are on holiday or vacation and are together during that time period.

What do men look on a date

Sunday, May 11th, 2008
Some thing to consider while dating

  • Does she complain about men?
  • Is she open to new things?
  • Do I like her cloths and sense of style?
  • Can she speak intelligently about more than one thing (such as her job)?
  • Is she emotionally available or is she still talking to her ex a lot?
  • Can she maintain eye contact? Is she nervous? Is there some energy between us or is it flat? (Nervous is better than flat)
  • Is she generous or is she confrontational? Can she hold her own opinion without making me wrong?
  • Does she have a good sense of humor and a “fun” attitude? Does she get my sense of humor? Is she happy?
  • Do we have chemistry? How does she respond when I put my hand on the side of her arm or in the small of her back? Is she open and not afraid to show that she likes me?
  • Is she high maintenance? Does she talk about nicer places than the one you are taking her to in a way that makes you think she would have rather gone there? Does she pick the most expensive thing on the menu on a first date?

summer dates

Sunday, May 11th, 2008

Some unique dating ideas to try before summer wraps up.

  • Go to an outdoor music festival
  • Check out your local county fair
  • Pack up a picnic and go for a hike
  • Check out the animals at the zoo
  • Get some healthy eats and beautiful flowers at the Farmer’s Market
  • Pick your favorite horse and place a bet at the race track
  • Ride some roller coasters at your favorite amusement park
  • Go for a bike ride and stop for some ice cream to take a break

Something women should look for when Dating

Sunday, May 11th, 2008
    Some tips for dating women.

  • Does he carry himself with confidence?
  • Did he complain about every aspect of his life?
  • Does he appear trustworthy, dependable and honest?
  • Do we have good chemistry? Am I attracted to him?
  • Do I like his sense of humor? Does he have one? Did we have fun together?
  • Was he complimentary? Did he say something positive about the way I look?
  • Did he only have eyes for me? Or was he interested in other women in the room?
  • Is he a good communicator? Did he listen and appear to be interested in what I had to say?
  • Is he well groomed with good hygiene? Clothes clean and pressed?
  • Is he interesting? Did we engage easily in conversation or was it a struggle? Did he only talk about himself?
  • Is he intelligent? Does he seem interested in life? Is he the type of man who makes things happen?
  • Does he have good manners? Did he show me consideration and treat me with respect? Is he polite to others? Was he insulting about his exes?