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Confidence is attractive to women

Sunday, July 20th, 2008

***DATING QUESTION FROM A READER***

A success story with a question and lessons
learned the hard way.

Question:  perhaps you have addressed this before,
but why do women choose unstable “losers” over
stable, “good guys” like me?  One may noticed this
and labeled it the “SPCA” syndrome: “Society for
Prevention of Cruelty to Animals.” In other words,
the woman goes for the “stray,” not the “well-
bread.”

I think it goes to the issue of challenge, which
has two aspects.  One is “benign”: the man has to
be a challenge in the sense that he is not too
available. Another, which is negative, is the man
is so “damaged” that he presents a challenge in
another, less benign way: the woman wants to “fix”
him.  I heard Dr. Laura the other day, although I
usually cannot stand her.  Some dimwit woman
called in and said she had been dating guy A, who
was nice, and was now dating A’s friend, B, and
she did not know what to do.  A was a good guy and
stable, B was a lowlife but was “exciting.” Dr.
“Queen of Life” jumped all over her, asking this
genius how she would answer the same question if
her own daughter asked her that question.  It was
clear by the idiot’s “OK” after being given this
advice that she did not get the answer she wanted
and will probably stick with B.

Success story:   Confidence.

1.  Parents and religion.  About 10 years ago, I
was dating a surgeon who was Jewish.  I am not
Jewish, so that made a big difference and was
ultimately one of two factors leading to our
demise (the other was that I could not trust her).
She told me her parents did not approve of me
since I was non-Jewish.  I just told her to her
face, “I don’t care what your parents think.  I’m
not here to please them.”  I think this took her
by surprise and increased her respect for me.

You my want to do columns on these if you have not
done so already:  dealing with parents; dealing
with different religions.

2.  Signs that you are confident.  Every dating
advisor stresses male confidence. Watch the
woman’s actions and listen to her words to detect
if your confidence is “showing” or “hitting.”  The
surgeon gave me two of the greatest compliments I
ever received, which confirmed that I was “doing
things right.”  Both were out of the blue.  One:
“I can’t figure you out.”  Two:  ”I never know
what you are going to do next.”

Suggestions:

1.  Criteria.  Before arranging a blind date, be
sure to the extent possible that you ensure the
woman meets your “criteria.”  DO NOT BE SHY ABOUT
THIS. For example, a friend of mine (I will call
her “A”), working through a friend of hers (”B”),
set me up with a blind date I will call “Carol”. I
drove about 30 minutes to meet the woman. When I
saw her, I immediately knew I did not like her
looks.  The “clincher” occurred as we approached
the hostess, who asked us where we wanted to sit.
“Carol” immediately said something like, “I have
to sit somewhere I can smoke.”  At that point, the
date was effectively over because I am vehemently
nonsmoking. It is simply not negotiable with me.
So, we sat at a table to the side of the
restaurant instead of a waterfront table.

LESSON: neither my friend nor I remembered to
check for smoking. And, while I went ahead and had
the dinner, I lost about an hour’s driving time
and the time and money for the meal with nothing
in return. The experience was a complete waste
except to re- learn the lesson:  ensure the woman
is a nonsmoker.

Another interesting tactic would, after she said
something about smoking, be to say, “I’m sorry.  I
did not realize you were a smoker.  You know,
really, since I do not smoke the evening will be a
waste of your time and mine, so let’s call it
quits.”  And then I should have then simply left.
The problem is that this action would have gotten
me in trouble with my good friend “A.”

2.  Eject after her infidelity.  After you have
been dating a woman and the two of you have been
exclusive, at the first sign of her infidelity,
PUSH EJECT AND DUMP HERE.  Infidelity is an
irreparable breach of trust and cannot be
repaired. I tried to fix a relationship after such
an incident, and she continued to remain in touch
with her “secondary lover.”  Despite advice to
dump her and her continuing affection toward me, I
held on for a few more months, which were
miserable, before finally pushing EJECT and
unilaterally dumping her with no warning or
discussion.  The lesson is: pay attention to what
women DO, not to what they SAY.

C. J.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

First of all, thank you for taking the time to
think this through and for clearly communicating
the points you’ve made. You’ve brought up some
important ideas, and I’d like to comment on them.

ON THE DR. LAURA STORY AND YOUR QUESTION…

One of the things that Dr. Laura doesn’t get in
this particular situation goes a little something
like this:

THE WOMAN IN THE STORY WASN’T USING LOGIC TO
DECIDE WHICH MAN TO FEEL ATTRACTED TO, SO TRYING
TO CONVINCE HER WITH LOGIC IS A WASTE OF TIME.

Now, you made some valid points about the woman
enjoying the “challenge” of the “stray” and/or of
the “unavailable” guy.

This is good stuff, and it’s accurate.

But, the REAL key to this situation is that
ATTRACTION ISN’T A CHOICE. Attraction is a
POWERFUL EMOTIONAL and PHYSICAL response.

And, as you might know, when you’re feeling a
powerful emotion, it’s difficult, or in many
cases, almost impossible to override that emotion
with LOGIC.

The woman is clearly ATTRACTED to the
“lowlife”, but she also knows in her MIND that she
“should” stay with the “stable nice guy”.

EMOTION beats LOGIC any day of the week when it
comes to attraction and female behavior.

Being a challenge and being unavailable are
things that TRIGGER the emotion, but once it’s
triggered then there’s not much that a woman can
do about it.

And as you noticed, not even advice from the
“first lady” of relationship logic can change it.

So to answer your question, the reason why
women “choose” unstable losers over stable guys
like you is…

THEY DON’T CHOOSE AT ALL.

There is no logical “decision” being made. When
it comes to ATTRACTION, “choosing” doesn’t even
come into play.

If you want women to feel that powerful emotion
called ATTRACTION for you, then you need to learn
how to communicate and behave in the way that
TRIGGERS ATTRACTION.

This article is from David Deangelo Newsletter and have been submitted by the architect of free online dating site, know as Dating Idol

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attraction towards women

Sunday, July 20th, 2008

***QUESTION***

Hi,

I got a quick Q. You mentioned quite a bit that
its good to be honest with a new woman you met
that you want/are dating other women at the same
time. At what point in getting to know a woman
should you say this? ie. before or after the first
kissing/sex etc. And secondly, how should you go
about saying this honestly to a woman? This woman
I’m seeing now made it clear that she wanted
exclusivity from the start (pretty much after the
first few kissing sessions) and saying that she’s
not that “type of woman you can find on the
street”. Any ideas? Thanks.  T Prague  P.S. I
hooked up with this woman thanks to the
cocky/funny routine you teach. My last
relationship I had been in was over… *cringe*…
4 years ago and it left me in WUSS mode.
Ironically, I remember getting myself that
girlfriend using C/F as well, but didn’t realize
it until I thought about it very recently. Thanks
again man.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is a great question.

The first thing you need to do is decide what
YOU want for YOURSELF.

If you want to date other women, then do it.

If you want to be exclusive, then do it.

But make sure you’re making the decision based
on what YOU want for your life.

Second, if you want to date more than one woman
at a time, and the woman you’re dating says “I
want to be exclusive” with you, then you need to
accept that she might leave if you date other
women. Deal with it.

Too many guys in your situation would cringe
and say “Oh, but I can’t lose this girl. I’ll do
whatever she wants…” etc.

This is a bad move, of course. When you decide
to put aside what you want for your life because
you’re trying to please someone else, trouble
usually isn’t far down the road.

If I were you, and I wanted to date other
women, I’d say…

“I think that it’s a big mistake for two people
to get into a relationship so fast. Most
relationships that end badly end because the
people got involved too quickly, and because they
didn’t know each other at all. I like spending
time with you, but I’m not even interested in
talking about having an exclusive relationship
with you until I’ve known you longer.”

Be strong. It’s worth it.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

To make a long story short, I just got out of a 1
year relationship about a week ago and almost
completely forgot how it was done and lost almost
all my game.  I’m a pretty good looking guy and
never really had trouble getting dates. Anyways
I’ve been getting your newsletters for quite a
while, but being in a long term relationship I
never got a chance to test them out until
recently…  but Damn! you hit it right on the
money!  In no time at all I was back in the game
getting 2 #’s and an email address in 1 day from
trying your techniques, and these are girls that
even I couldn’t get before, becuz I admit I was a
wussbag to girls I was really interested in.  But
not anymore!  I made up a pretty good c/f routine
when i noticed this really hott girl’s hair all
done up, check it out…

Me: Hey are you going to a Rave? Girl: No…. why?
Me: Because you got this crazy Rave chick do goin
on (pointing at her hair) Girl: Oh what you don’t
like my hair? Me: Well, I guess it’d be pretty
cool if you were going to a Party or something
but i wouldn’t go out in public like that…
(with a serious face)

So then she laughed and asked me what my name was
and I stole the 4′ without the shoes thing also
and got her email and to this point we’re still
getting to know each other but things are looking
way up!  Dave, thank you!!!! (almost forgot to
say… she’s a 9)

Thanks again KJ in GA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Nice.

You realize that there are going to be men all
over the world this week walking up to attractive
women with “big hair” and asking if they’re going
to raves… right?

This is a WONDERFUL example of how to be Cocky
and Funny.

Welcome back, and I hope you enjoy being single
more this time!

***QUESTION***

Hi David,

I’ve had great success since reading the ebook and
newsletters.  This summer, I was practicing c and
f on a lesbian just for fun, no expectations… a
couple days later she jumped me! Powerful stuff.

My question.  I work in the library at a
University.  I’m a cashier where people pay their
library fines.  I talk to dozens of women a day,
since they have to pay their fines to register for
classes.  Captive audience!  What a great
opportunity for getting emails and phone numbers,
huh?  Unfortunately, I’ve got 3 bosses in cubicles
near by within earshot of the counter. I’m
cocky/funny with all the cute girls I meet, but I
hesitate to ask for email addresses, afraid that
it would piss off my bosses. Any ideas on how to
ask for email addresses non-verbally, or in way
that wouldn’t be obvious to overhearers?  I’m
stumped.

Thanks, S

Edmonds, WA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, can I tell you how much I LOVE IT when guys
write me to tell me that they’ve converted
LESBIANS back to the “light” side? You are the
man.

Oh, how I would love to have your job!

Do you remember the guy who wrote in a few
months back with the “survey” idea?

Try this…

After you’ve been flirting with a girl, say
“Here, take this real quick…”

Then, take a piece of paper (or have one
ready), and at the top write “SURVEY” in big
letters.

Under that write:

1. First Name

2. Email Address

3. Phone Number

…try that. I’ll bet it will kick ass.

Oh, and I hate you.

***QUESTION***

First of all, props to you Dave and the great
ebook. “Double Your Dating” is definitely the best
title for your book, because I did just that. But
there’s a problem… I need to know how to hook up
with a lady friend of mine. We’ve been friends for
about 2 years, and we’re close friends. That’s the
first mistake, yes, I know once the “friendship
line” is crossed its hard to go back. We flirt a
lot, and play fight and all that “cute” sh*t.
She’s about an 8.0 and lately i’ve been getting
these “urges” (i want to sleep with her)… So
basically, I need to know how to get her to jump
back to the other side of the “friendship line”
again. I’ve been doing the C/F routine for a
while, she gets a kick out of it, and it always
brings a laugh and a long lasting smile to her
face. I’m constantly unpredictable, always
changing. Once she thinks she has me figured out,
I switch it up again. Also, when she acts like
she’s really mad at me, I ignore her and let her
have her little temper tantrum. I just simply walk
away from her, and she hates it! She’s always
saying “I HATE IT WHEN YOU NEVER GIVE IN!” and
thats how I know i’m doing a good job lol. So, to
sum things up, the stuff from your book worked on
her. She told me she thinks about me a lot more,
and she even thought about kissing me. But she
said it’d be “too weird” for us to be together
since we’re such “good friends”. Dave, is there
something I can say to her to change her mind? Or
should i use some techniques that aren’t in the
book? Please help me Dave… Please oh please oh
please.

P.S. Please please please

W from Jersey

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, first of all, NEVER say “please oh please
oh please” again to me, lest I consider you to be
the WUSS OF ALL WUSSBAGS.

And never write “P.S. Please please please”.
I’m shaking my head right now.

You’re on the right track with the girl, by the
way.

Next time she says something like “I’ve thought
about kissing you” say “You’re probably not that
good of a kisser anyway” and change the subject.

Then tease her about it later.

This sets up a challenge in her mind, and it
will work wonders, if done correctly.

Finally, say “Come here” and tell her to close
her eyes.

Lean in really close, like you’re going to kiss
her, and she can feel your lips just touching
hers… then lean back and say “never mind”, I
still bet that you don’t know how to kiss.

Get it?

After you do this three or four time, lead into
smelling her neck as I describe in the bonus
booklet called “Sex Secrets” that came with Double
Your Dating. That should do it for you.

***COMMENT***

Sometimes I try to pick up women off the street
(no, not hookers) whether I’m riding my sickle or
driving my car. I found out long ago not to ask
them if they want a ride. If I’m on the bike, I
say only, “Get on!”. If I’m in a car, I say “Get
in!” More often than not, they don’t say a word
and just get on or get in. And I’m not incredibly
tall and goodlooking, nor riding a Harley, or
driving some hip car. I’ve had women in business
dress (usually with fuller skirts), wearing heels
and carrying brief cases practically leap onto the
back of the bike.

Once a bunch of us were shooting the breeze about
some of the nastier women we’ve had and one of the
youngest in the group said, “How do you find women
like these?” To the rest of the group’s approval,
I said, “You don’t find them. You make them.”

KM Fort Worth, Texas

This article is from David Deangelo Newsletter and have been submitted by the architect of free online dating site, know as Dating Idol

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attraction to quality women

Sunday, July 20th, 2008

***QUESTION***

Masta D,

I give credit when credit is due, I want to thank
you for solving a whole lot of the puzzle for me,
and for spending several hours on these
newsletters.

After a year of learning and practicing your stuff
I am finding just how powerful it actually is.
Your last newsletter of conversation topics was a
big help, and the ‘just friends’ thing is a real
killer. Dave, i have a quick question- This
beautiful women asks me “Will I ever have a chance
with you?” I’m proud of that and all, but in order
to amplify the attraction would I simply say
“no”…or how would you answer it differently?

Thanks man I’ll get your audio series soon, D from
CA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

“Masta D”, huh?

I kind of like the sounds of it. Maybe I should
quit this whole biz, and go into producing rap.
I’ll think about it.

As for your situation, I have ideas.

What you have is the EXACT OPPOSITE of what
usually happens. Most GUYS are thinking “I don’t
have a chance with this girl” etc.

When a woman asks a question like this, it
means that she’s feeling VERY insecure, because
she knows that she’s dealing with a man who has
OPTIONS.

She “gets it” that you can go out and meet
women any time you want, and she’s exposing this
insecurity to you by asking questions like this.

If I were you, I’d answer:

“Well, let me think about it” or “A chance to
do what?” or “What are you willing to offer in
exchange?”… in a COCKY & FUNNY tone of voice.

When a woman asks you a serious question like
this in a needy tone of voice, you need to kind of
diffuse the situation, but keep the energy going.

When you answer with a confusing, funny,
arrogant answer, it takes the negative tension out
of the air (because you used humor), and it adds
some positive tension (because you hinted that she
does).

This is a great opportunity to use your Cocky &
Funny material, so do it!

***QUESTION***

Dave,

I know you’ve heard this before, but you really
are a genius. I am a 35yo physician with good
looks and muscular built, but had the worst luck
with women. After medical school, I thought I
would have no problem with women because I was a
doctor. WRONG!! I was a WUSS!!

After reading your ebook, I only wished I knew
this stuff 15yrs ago. This information is
priceless, I would have paid thousands of dollars
for this. The cost is truly a steal.  Many, many,
many thanks. Question: Do you think it’s wise to
use these techniques on women at work?

P.F. Chattanooga, TN

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Thanks for the compliments. I get a lot of
email from guys who are athletes, bodybuilders,
naturally handsome, etc. that say the same
things… if you don’t have the right attitude,
understanding, and skills, then the looks alone
are almost useless.

And on the other hand, if you have the
attitude, understanding, and skills, then looks
aren’t even that important…

I’m glad you’re having the success you’ve
always wanted. It’s a great feeling, isn’t it?

As for your question, I personally think that
women you work with are great to PRACTICE on, but
horrible to DATE.

Everything is great until you BREAK UP. Then it
might turn into your worst nightmare at dating

My rule “Don’t dip your pen in the company
ink.”

This article is from David Deangelo Newsletter and have been submitted by the architect of free online dating site, know as Dating Idol

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quality women and attraction

Sunday, July 20th, 2008

***QUESTION***

Hi David,

First off, got the e-book and the CD series, and I
must say it BLEW my mind away. Your e-book helped
me pour on the C&F online to land a girl which I
am currently dating. I can also vouch that
everything else that you address in your material
is working like a charm on her…she can’t get
enough of me. She even started out telling me that
she wasn’t the “type” of girl to get physical too
soon, but C&F took care of that!  Everything is
good with her, but I am also trying to date other
women using the direct approach, as my ultimate
goal is to become a Jedi master of women myself
(thanks to your teaching). Now I am working on
myself to improve my direct approach (i.e. body
language, eye contact, mental state, etc.)  My
question is for guys like me who are getting their
feet wet with the approaching of women, how do you
recommend we should go about it, where to start? I
mean should we start by approaching and working on
mentality, and then body language, C&F, and then
voice tone…. or do it all at once? Do you have
any advice on which books/tapes are the most
useful for learning these? By the way, please come
give a seminar here in Houston, TX, I’d love to
learn more!

VN Houston, TX

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Great question…

I really think that the FIRST thing you need to
get handled is COMFORT approaching women. In other
words, you need to get to the point where you can
walk up to a woman and start talking to her
without turning into an emotional basket case.

If you’re FREAKED out on the inside, it’s going
to be pretty hard for you to act “normal” on the
outside. And it’s going to be even harder to try
new things and use techniques that you’re learning
if you’re uptight.

The best thing you can do is go out and start
conversations with about 50 women over the next
week or two. If you’re too nervous to converse,
just give a compliment and walk away.

Say “Hi, I just wanted to tell you that I think
you’re beautiful. Have a great day.” and walk
away.

After you can do that, then try keeping eye
contact with the woman while you’re saying it.

After that, try pausing for three seconds
before you say the word “beautiful”… all while
keeping eye contact.

If you can do this, you’ll have women stop you
and try to talk to you as you’re walking away.

When you can do this comfortably, then try
asking her a few casual questions to start a
conversation. Ask her if she lives in the area or
if she’s visiting. Ask her what her name is.
Simple stuff.

At this point you’ll be ready to use the three
minute email/phone number technique, and ask for
her email.

I’d say that this is the most important part.
As you’re getting more comfortable talking to
women, you can start to use more and more of the
things you’re learning from the other materials
that you have.

Congratulations on the girl you met online!
Good work!

***QUESTION***

Hi David…

I actually started using the c&f technique before
i ordered your online ebook just by using my own
intuition from what I read in your newsletters.
Needless to say, it’s been working like a charm!
I’ve had 3 women in online chat the last week drop
me their no.’s, with 2 of them BEGGING me to call
them! Of course, I’d never give in, but the most
striking things one of these chicks said was: “I
can’t believe I’m feeling this way about someone
that I hardly even know.” Good stuff man!

I have a question though… There’s this beautiful
redhead in one of my college classes. She seems
particularly ’stuck-up,’ doesn’t really associate
with anyone, and generally seems to be very aloof.
The university I go to is generally very ‘clique’
oriented, where everyone knows everyone else. My
question is, how do i break the bubble with this
chick without her giving me a raised eyebrow, and
what can I do to follow-up on getting her
interested in me?

Sincerely yours,

J.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, I’m going to give you an answer that you
probably don’t want to hear…

If you’re doing so well meeting women online,
and you have two women begging you to call them,
then why are you focusing on a woman who seems
“particularly stuck up”?

Keep doing what’s working, genius!

But if you’re HELL BENT on the redhead, then
try this:

Go sit next to her in class, and completely
ignore her for most of the class. Pretend that the
seat next to you is actually empty. Don’t look at
her, talk to her, etc.

If she says anything to you during the class,
or asks you a question, answer it in a
disinterested voice and don’t look at her.

Then, as the class is coming closer to ending,
turn to her and look her in the eye and say “So it
it true what they say about redheads?” in a cool,
calm way… maybe one eyebrow raised.

She’ll say “What do they say?”

Answer “Well if you don’t know, I’m not going
to tell you” and give her a sly smile, as if you
know something that she doesn’t.

Then say “What’s your name?”… and after
getting her name say “I have to run after class…
do you have email? Maybe we can study sometime.”

Then hand her your pen as if you FULLY EXPECT
her to write it down.

Try that.

And remember, if you have women online saying
things to you like “I can’t believe I’m feeling
this way about somebody I hardly know”, then you
might want to focus more there!

***QUESTION***

I am still in college, and I have a slight
problem. I have been using your techniques (both
the book and the CD series) and have absolutely no
trouble getting email or digits (or laid for that
matter). But I do have a hard time meeting quality
women. I have quadruple-quadrupled my dating, and
have yet to meet anything I would consider a
keeper. I’ll go on a few dates and all seems well,
then, these issues start flaring up (i.e. abusive
ex-boyfriends, they become obsessively
clingy/needy, drug problems, etc….) Is there
some way to weed out women with these issues ahead
of time? I don’t want to come off as an a**hole or
snobbish, but I am getting more and more selective
as my time and energy are too valuable to waste on
girls that don’t have their act together. Are
there some tell-tell signs up front that I am
failing to see? Oh master jedi, please help me on
the selection/weeding-out process. Until I get
some help, I’ll have to continue to nail every
chick in sight. (I won’t be too upset if you don’t
answer, I just hope my di** doesn’t fall off!!)

(If you haven’t INVESTED in the book and audio
series - you are cheating yourself. In the word’s
of the Stif-meister, “Any time you pass up sex you
are cheating on yourself” - by not INVESTING, you
are passing up the keys to gratuitous sex. Get
this stuff so you can get the real stuff!!) — A

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, thanks for the plug, and congrats on the
success with women.

You have a problem that is a GOOD problem to
have.

And you’re exactly right… the more success
with women you have, the more selective you
become.

Instead of settling for any woman that wants to
settle down, you realize that YOU are the one who
can choose your own future.

It’s a powerful reality to live in.

Unfortunately, it’s a reality that most men on
this planet will never experience.

Let me give you a few hints…

If you want to meet an attractive, healthy
woman to settle down with and have a great
relationship, then you’re probably NOT going to
meet her at a bar, club, strip club, etc.

Go check out some self-improvement classes.

Or go to the gym.

Or take a yoga class.

Start asking the questions that WOMEN usually
ask at first…

“Are your parents still married?”

“How was your childhood?”

“What’s your relationship like with each of
your family members?”

“Have you ever been in an abusive
relationship?”

I know it sounds a little backwards, but you
should probably start asking these questions at
the VERY BEGINNING, when you first meet a girl.

This will save you a lot of time in the long
run.

And remember, there are no perfectly healthy
people running around on this rock called Earth…

Best of fortune to you.

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Key words women say

Sunday, July 20th, 2008

OK, so GET THIS…

I’m reading through some of the bazillion
emails I get every week, and I come across one of
the best emails that I’ve read in a LONG time.

Are you ready for the interesting part?

It’s from a MARRIED GUY.

Yep, you read that right. He’s married.

He reads the newsletters and uses the things he
learns to improve his marriage. Go figure.

This guy was able to explain in a few
paragraphs a concept and technique that I
personally use, but have been unable to actually
explain and verbalize well.

I wish I would have written what you’re about
to read, but I didn’t (but I’m still a cool guy
because I wrote what came before and after it).

Check this out…
***Conversation Technique***

Dave,

I’m still having great success with a rekindled
marriage using you’re Tips on my wife. Thanks a
million. Listen, I keep reading over and over in
the MailBags guys wanting to know how to start,
then keep a conversation going with women. I work
for a major oil company and have been through many
of there training courses on dealing with people.
One particularly interesting course was on
“Information Seeking”. For this we first practiced
picking up on “Key words or phrases” the subject
said. For instance, I’ll try and give an example
using c&f even though you wouldn’t use this
professionally on the job. Lets say you see this
great looking chick on the street and you tell
her, “That’s an unusual looking dress you’re
wearing. Was that made out of a shower curtain?”
She says, “Your mean! No, I bought this from the
Old Navy store.” Key Words: Old Navy. “Oh, so
you’re in the Navy, huh?” “No silly. You know, the
big store over at the Mall.” Key word: Mall. “Oh,
so you like going to the Mall and buying strange
looking dresses do you? Do your girlfriends buy
them also?” “My girlfriends are neat dressers and
my dress is very popular I’ll have you know!” Key
phrases: “girlfriends are neat dressers” and
“dress is popular”. “Well, if your girlfriends are
neat dressers in a popular dress like you’re
wearing then I’m going into the shower curtain
clothing business…” I know, this is a lame
example but the lessons are this.

1) You start a conversation with however you want
then pick out key words or phrases from what the
person says.

2) You repeat them in what you say then listen for
new key words in there next response.

3) You add a little something new into the
conversation REPEATING there words you’re using as
Key words or phrases. This tells them you’re
listening, even though you’re turning things
around to be c/f in this situation.

Once we learned to keep someone talking for 5
minutes, then 15 minutes the company actually
hired total strangers from a job soliciting
company to come and be our subjects. While being
videotaped we had to get the person talking and
keep them talking for 30 minutes. One important
note: If a person brings up something personal or
whatever, they wouldn’t have mentioned it if they
didn’t want to talk about it. These are great to
Key in on. My subject mentioned she was going
through a divorce and her ex-husband was a total
jerk. I keyed in on this and it’s amazing what a
total stranger will tell you once you build a
little rapport. When watching the video you pick
up on mistakes or you see something different you
could have said. You also pick up on Key words and
phases you missed. It just takes a little
practice. This is just one example of how you can
start a conversation and keep it going. Hopefully
it can be of help to you’re readers.

JTM Texas

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Awesome.

This is an EXCELLENT description of how to keep
a conversation going, keep it interesting and
unpredictable, and talk about ANYTHING and have it
be fun. on dating

Read it again.

Now, let me sprinkle a little magic dust on
this and tell you how I use this technique
personally.

When I’m having a conversation with a woman,
I’m not just listening for ANY key word… I’m
listening for a particular KIND of key word (or
words).

I’m always on the alert for any words or
phrases that can be twisted, turned around,
misinterpreted, and misconstrued (is that a word?)
in one of a few particular ways…

Namely, in a way that says she’s stupid, ditzy,
sexually crazed, or acting suspicious.

For instance, in your example above, you
suggested the following:

“That’s an unusual looking dress you’re wearing.
Was that made out of a shower curtain?” She says,
“You’re mean! No, I bought this from the Old Navy
store.” Key Words: Old Navy. “Oh, so you’re in the
Navy, huh?” “No silly. You know, the big store
over at the Mall.” Key word: Mall. “Oh, so you
like going to the Mall and buying strange looking
dresses do you? Do your girlfriends buy them
also?” “My girlfriends are neat dressers and my
dress is very popular I’ll have you know!” Key
phrases: “girlfriends are neat dressers” and
“dress is popular”. “Well, if your girlfriends are
neat dressers in a popular dress like you’re
wearing then I’m going into the shower curtain
clothing business…”

Good. Nice one.

Now, let’s dial it up a little bit…

She says, “No, I bought this from the Old Navy
store…”

Instead of just keying into “Navy” and saying,
“Oh, so you’re in the navy, huh?”, why not take it
to the next step and actually MAKE FUN of her.

“Oh, so is this what guys used to wear in the
Navy a long time ago… in the OLD Navy?”

Now you’re BUSTING on her as well, AND it’s
funny.

She says, “No silly. you know, the big store
over at the Mall.”

You might try, “What kind of MALL are YOU
shopping at? And do your girlfriends buy dresses
like that one too?”

Again, you’re hinting that she has funky taste
and she shops in weird places.

She says, “My girlfriends are neat dressers and
my dress is very popular I’ll have you know!”

You could go with, “Oh, you have girlfriends?
You have more than one? Do they all know that you
think of them as a girlfriend? Or is one of them
the special one? By the way, if you have cute
girlfriends, then I think you and I are going to
get along VERY well.”

…are you with me here?

What I’m doing is NOT ONLY looking for key
words to latch onto, but I’m ALSO looking for ways
to spin them to make fun, tease, and subtly
suggest various kinds of “racy” topics.

When done in a funny way, it’s magic.

This article is from David Deangelo Newsletter and have been submitte by the architect of free online dating site, know as Dating Idol

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