***QUESTION***
Hi,
I got a quick Q. You mentioned quite a bit that
its good to be honest with a new woman you met
that you want/are dating other women at the same
time. At what point in getting to know a woman
should you say this? ie. before or after the first
kissing/sex etc. And secondly, how should you go
about saying this honestly to a woman? This woman
I’m seeing now made it clear that she wanted
exclusivity from the start (pretty much after the
first few kissing sessions) and saying that she’s
not that “type of woman you can find on the
street”. Any ideas? Thanks. T Prague P.S. I
hooked up with this woman thanks to the
cocky/funny routine you teach. My last
relationship I had been in was over… *cringe*…
4 years ago and it left me in WUSS mode.
Ironically, I remember getting myself that
girlfriend using C/F as well, but didn’t realize
it until I thought about it very recently. Thanks
again man.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is a great question.
The first thing you need to do is decide what
YOU want for YOURSELF.
If you want to date other women, then do it.
If you want to be exclusive, then do it.
But make sure you’re making the decision based
on what YOU want for your life.
Second, if you want to date more than one woman
at a time, and the woman you’re dating says “I
want to be exclusive” with you, then you need to
accept that she might leave if you date other
women. Deal with it.
Too many guys in your situation would cringe
and say “Oh, but I can’t lose this girl. I’ll do
whatever she wants…” etc.
This is a bad move, of course. When you decide
to put aside what you want for your life because
you’re trying to please someone else, trouble
usually isn’t far down the road.
If I were you, and I wanted to date other
women, I’d say…
“I think that it’s a big mistake for two people
to get into a relationship so fast. Most
relationships that end badly end because the
people got involved too quickly, and because they
didn’t know each other at all. I like spending
time with you, but I’m not even interested in
talking about having an exclusive relationship
with you until I’ve known you longer.”
Be strong. It’s worth it.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Dave,
To make a long story short, I just got out of a 1
year relationship about a week ago and almost
completely forgot how it was done and lost almost
all my game. I’m a pretty good looking guy and
never really had trouble getting dates. Anyways
I’ve been getting your newsletters for quite a
while, but being in a long term relationship I
never got a chance to test them out until
recently… but Damn! you hit it right on the
money! In no time at all I was back in the game
getting 2 #’s and an email address in 1 day from
trying your techniques, and these are girls that
even I couldn’t get before, becuz I admit I was a
wussbag to girls I was really interested in. But
not anymore! I made up a pretty good c/f routine
when i noticed this really hott girl’s hair all
done up, check it out…
Me: Hey are you going to a Rave? Girl: No…. why?
Me: Because you got this crazy Rave chick do goin
on (pointing at her hair) Girl: Oh what you don’t
like my hair? Me: Well, I guess it’d be pretty
cool if you were going to a Party or something
but i wouldn’t go out in public like that…
(with a serious face)
So then she laughed and asked me what my name was
and I stole the 4′ without the shoes thing also
and got her email and to this point we’re still
getting to know each other but things are looking
way up! Dave, thank you!!!! (almost forgot to
say… she’s a 9)
Thanks again KJ in GA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Nice.
You realize that there are going to be men all
over the world this week walking up to attractive
women with “big hair” and asking if they’re going
to raves… right?
This is a WONDERFUL example of how to be Cocky
and Funny.
Welcome back, and I hope you enjoy being single
more this time!
***QUESTION***
Hi David,
I’ve had great success since reading the ebook and
newsletters. This summer, I was practicing c and
f on a lesbian just for fun, no expectations… a
couple days later she jumped me! Powerful stuff.
My question. I work in the library at a
University. I’m a cashier where people pay their
library fines. I talk to dozens of women a day,
since they have to pay their fines to register for
classes. Captive audience! What a great
opportunity for getting emails and phone numbers,
huh? Unfortunately, I’ve got 3 bosses in cubicles
near by within earshot of the counter. I’m
cocky/funny with all the cute girls I meet, but I
hesitate to ask for email addresses, afraid that
it would piss off my bosses. Any ideas on how to
ask for email addresses non-verbally, or in way
that wouldn’t be obvious to overhearers? I’m
stumped.
Thanks, S
Edmonds, WA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Oh, can I tell you how much I LOVE IT when guys
write me to tell me that they’ve converted
LESBIANS back to the “light” side? You are the
man.
Oh, how I would love to have your job!
Do you remember the guy who wrote in a few
months back with the “survey” idea?
Try this…
After you’ve been flirting with a girl, say
“Here, take this real quick…”
Then, take a piece of paper (or have one
ready), and at the top write “SURVEY” in big
letters.
Under that write:
1. First Name
2. Email Address
3. Phone Number
…try that. I’ll bet it will kick ass.
Oh, and I hate you.
***QUESTION***
First of all, props to you Dave and the great
ebook. “Double Your Dating” is definitely the best
title for your book, because I did just that. But
there’s a problem… I need to know how to hook up
with a lady friend of mine. We’ve been friends for
about 2 years, and we’re close friends. That’s the
first mistake, yes, I know once the “friendship
line” is crossed its hard to go back. We flirt a
lot, and play fight and all that “cute” sh*t.
She’s about an 8.0 and lately i’ve been getting
these “urges” (i want to sleep with her)… So
basically, I need to know how to get her to jump
back to the other side of the “friendship line”
again. I’ve been doing the C/F routine for a
while, she gets a kick out of it, and it always
brings a laugh and a long lasting smile to her
face. I’m constantly unpredictable, always
changing. Once she thinks she has me figured out,
I switch it up again. Also, when she acts like
she’s really mad at me, I ignore her and let her
have her little temper tantrum. I just simply walk
away from her, and she hates it! She’s always
saying “I HATE IT WHEN YOU NEVER GIVE IN!” and
thats how I know i’m doing a good job lol. So, to
sum things up, the stuff from your book worked on
her. She told me she thinks about me a lot more,
and she even thought about kissing me. But she
said it’d be “too weird” for us to be together
since we’re such “good friends”. Dave, is there
something I can say to her to change her mind? Or
should i use some techniques that aren’t in the
book? Please help me Dave… Please oh please oh
please.
P.S. Please please please
W from Jersey
>>>MY COMMENTS:
OK, first of all, NEVER say “please oh please
oh please” again to me, lest I consider you to be
the WUSS OF ALL WUSSBAGS.
And never write “P.S. Please please please”.
I’m shaking my head right now.
You’re on the right track with the girl, by the
way.
Next time she says something like “I’ve thought
about kissing you” say “You’re probably not that
good of a kisser anyway” and change the subject.
Then tease her about it later.
This sets up a challenge in her mind, and it
will work wonders, if done correctly.
Finally, say “Come here” and tell her to close
her eyes.
Lean in really close, like you’re going to kiss
her, and she can feel your lips just touching
hers… then lean back and say “never mind”, I
still bet that you don’t know how to kiss.
Get it?
After you do this three or four time, lead into
smelling her neck as I describe in the bonus
booklet called “Sex Secrets” that came with Double
Your Dating. That should do it for you.
***COMMENT***
Sometimes I try to pick up women off the street
(no, not hookers) whether I’m riding my sickle or
driving my car. I found out long ago not to ask
them if they want a ride. If I’m on the bike, I
say only, “Get on!”. If I’m in a car, I say “Get
in!” More often than not, they don’t say a word
and just get on or get in. And I’m not incredibly
tall and goodlooking, nor riding a Harley, or
driving some hip car. I’ve had women in business
dress (usually with fuller skirts), wearing heels
and carrying brief cases practically leap onto the
back of the bike.
Once a bunch of us were shooting the breeze about
some of the nastier women we’ve had and one of the
youngest in the group said, “How do you find women
like these?” To the rest of the group’s approval,
I said, “You don’t find them. You make them.”
KM Fort Worth, Texas
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