***QUESTION***
Hi David,
First off, got the e-book and the CD series, and I
must say it BLEW my mind away. Your e-book helped
me pour on the C&F online to land a girl which I
am currently dating. I can also vouch that
everything else that you address in your material
is working like a charm on her…she can’t get
enough of me. She even started out telling me that
she wasn’t the “type” of girl to get physical too
soon, but C&F took care of that! Everything is
good with her, but I am also trying to date other
women using the direct approach, as my ultimate
goal is to become a Jedi master of women myself
(thanks to your teaching). Now I am working on
myself to improve my direct approach (i.e. body
language, eye contact, mental state, etc.) My
question is for guys like me who are getting their
feet wet with the approaching of women, how do you
recommend we should go about it, where to start? I
mean should we start by approaching and working on
mentality, and then body language, C&F, and then
voice tone…. or do it all at once? Do you have
any advice on which books/tapes are the most
useful for learning these? By the way, please come
give a seminar here in Houston, TX, I’d love to
learn more!
VN Houston, TX
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Great question…
I really think that the FIRST thing you need to
get handled is COMFORT approaching women. In other
words, you need to get to the point where you can
walk up to a woman and start talking to her
without turning into an emotional basket case.
If you’re FREAKED out on the inside, it’s going
to be pretty hard for you to act “normal” on the
outside. And it’s going to be even harder to try
new things and use techniques that you’re learning
if you’re uptight.
The best thing you can do is go out and start
conversations with about 50 women over the next
week or two. If you’re too nervous to converse,
just give a compliment and walk away.
Say “Hi, I just wanted to tell you that I think
you’re beautiful. Have a great day.” and walk
away.
After you can do that, then try keeping eye
contact with the woman while you’re saying it.
After that, try pausing for three seconds
before you say the word “beautiful”… all while
keeping eye contact.
If you can do this, you’ll have women stop you
and try to talk to you as you’re walking away.
When you can do this comfortably, then try
asking her a few casual questions to start a
conversation. Ask her if she lives in the area or
if she’s visiting. Ask her what her name is.
Simple stuff.
At this point you’ll be ready to use the three
minute email/phone number technique, and ask for
her email.
I’d say that this is the most important part.
As you’re getting more comfortable talking to
women, you can start to use more and more of the
things you’re learning from the other materials
that you have.
Congratulations on the girl you met online!
Good work!
***QUESTION***
Hi David…
I actually started using the c&f technique before
i ordered your online ebook just by using my own
intuition from what I read in your newsletters.
Needless to say, it’s been working like a charm!
I’ve had 3 women in online chat the last week drop
me their no.’s, with 2 of them BEGGING me to call
them! Of course, I’d never give in, but the most
striking things one of these chicks said was: “I
can’t believe I’m feeling this way about someone
that I hardly even know.” Good stuff man!
I have a question though… There’s this beautiful
redhead in one of my college classes. She seems
particularly ’stuck-up,’ doesn’t really associate
with anyone, and generally seems to be very aloof.
The university I go to is generally very ‘clique’
oriented, where everyone knows everyone else. My
question is, how do i break the bubble with this
chick without her giving me a raised eyebrow, and
what can I do to follow-up on getting her
interested in me?
Sincerely yours,
J.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, I’m going to give you an answer that you
probably don’t want to hear…
If you’re doing so well meeting women online,
and you have two women begging you to call them,
then why are you focusing on a woman who seems
“particularly stuck up”?
Keep doing what’s working, genius!
But if you’re HELL BENT on the redhead, then
try this:
Go sit next to her in class, and completely
ignore her for most of the class. Pretend that the
seat next to you is actually empty. Don’t look at
her, talk to her, etc.
If she says anything to you during the class,
or asks you a question, answer it in a
disinterested voice and don’t look at her.
Then, as the class is coming closer to ending,
turn to her and look her in the eye and say “So it
it true what they say about redheads?” in a cool,
calm way… maybe one eyebrow raised.
She’ll say “What do they say?”
Answer “Well if you don’t know, I’m not going
to tell you” and give her a sly smile, as if you
know something that she doesn’t.
Then say “What’s your name?”… and after
getting her name say “I have to run after class…
do you have email? Maybe we can study sometime.”
Then hand her your pen as if you FULLY EXPECT
her to write it down.
Try that.
And remember, if you have women online saying
things to you like “I can’t believe I’m feeling
this way about somebody I hardly know”, then you
might want to focus more there!
***QUESTION***
I am still in college, and I have a slight
problem. I have been using your techniques (both
the book and the CD series) and have absolutely no
trouble getting email or digits (or laid for that
matter). But I do have a hard time meeting quality
women. I have quadruple-quadrupled my dating, and
have yet to meet anything I would consider a
keeper. I’ll go on a few dates and all seems well,
then, these issues start flaring up (i.e. abusive
ex-boyfriends, they become obsessively
clingy/needy, drug problems, etc….) Is there
some way to weed out women with these issues ahead
of time? I don’t want to come off as an a**hole or
snobbish, but I am getting more and more selective
as my time and energy are too valuable to waste on
girls that don’t have their act together. Are
there some tell-tell signs up front that I am
failing to see? Oh master jedi, please help me on
the selection/weeding-out process. Until I get
some help, I’ll have to continue to nail every
chick in sight. (I won’t be too upset if you don’t
answer, I just hope my di** doesn’t fall off!!)
(If you haven’t INVESTED in the book and audio
series - you are cheating yourself. In the word’s
of the Stif-meister, “Any time you pass up sex you
are cheating on yourself” - by not INVESTING, you
are passing up the keys to gratuitous sex. Get
this stuff so you can get the real stuff!!) — A
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, thanks for the plug, and congrats on the
success with women.
You have a problem that is a GOOD problem to
have.
And you’re exactly right… the more success
with women you have, the more selective you
become.
Instead of settling for any woman that wants to
settle down, you realize that YOU are the one who
can choose your own future.
It’s a powerful reality to live in.
Unfortunately, it’s a reality that most men on
this planet will never experience.
Let me give you a few hints…
If you want to meet an attractive, healthy
woman to settle down with and have a great
relationship, then you’re probably NOT going to
meet her at a bar, club, strip club, etc.
Go check out some self-improvement classes.
Or go to the gym.
Or take a yoga class.
Start asking the questions that WOMEN usually
ask at first…
“Are your parents still married?”
“How was your childhood?”
“What’s your relationship like with each of
your family members?”
“Have you ever been in an abusive
relationship?”
I know it sounds a little backwards, but you
should probably start asking these questions at
the VERY BEGINNING, when you first meet a girl.
This will save you a lot of time in the long
run.
And remember, there are no perfectly healthy
people running around on this rock called Earth…
Best of fortune to you.
This article is from David Deangelo Newsletter and have been submitte by the architect of free online dating site, know as Dating Idol