The idea that online dating, an often frustrating and unrewarding experience is something that we endure as singles in order to eventually find someone with whom we can have a relationship. It’s uncomfortable and awkward but it’s the dues you have to pay until you find that right person, and then whew! You can relax and have a relationship.
In this view, free online dating is often a series of maneuvers in which the goal is to attract and get the object of our affections. If we hear this, say that and behave just so we can win over a desired person. Dating is a game we play in order to get what we want. Many articles have been written on how to do this. Much of the advertising industry targets this wish to win a desirable partner. Once we accomplish our goal getting the right person we can then relax and begin a loving relationship.