The primary way that love addiction shows up in free online dating is in the loss of choice. This means that as you meet new people and make discoveries about who they are (values, emotional availability etc), your attraction to a new person completely chooses the relationship for you. Even if you discover a major incompatibility very early on, if there is a lot of chemistry you feel powerless to pass the person up. In fact, you find that the people who are at least likely to meet your emotional needs are the ones you are most attracted to. There s no sense of choice about it: You feel compelled to go forward with the wrong partner.