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U.S. residents spent $469.5 million on online dating and personals in 2004, and over $500 million in 2005, the second largest segment of “paid content” on the web, according to a study conducted by the Online Publishers Association (OPA) and comScore Networks.

At the end of November 2004, there were 844 lifestyle and dating sites, a 38 percent increase since the start of the year, according to Hitwise Inc. However, market share was increasingly being dominated by several large commercial services, including Yahoo! Personals, Match.com, and eHarmony. Former eHarmony CEO and son-in-law to founder Dr. Neil Clark Warren -the guy in the commercials, Greg Forgatch noted that despite the growing number of sites catering to specific niches, “to become a major player, it still takes a large number of people.” By 2007, many prominent studies show that Baby Boomer interest in online dating had soared. [1]

In 2002, a Wired magazine article forecast that, “Twenty years from now, the idea that someone looking for love without looking for it online will be silly, akin to skipping the card catalog to instead wander the stacks because ‘the right books are found only by accident.’ Serendipity is the hallmark of inefficient markets, and the marketplace of love, like it or not, is becoming more efficient” [2].

Of late, it is common to see free dating online websites providing webcam chats between members to make dating even more convenient than ever. In addition, as the online dating population becomes larger, sites with specific demographics are becoming more popular as a way to narrow the pool of potential matches. According to online personals expert Mark Brooks from onlinepersonalswatch.com, online dating sites are adding features including handwriting analysis to match like-minded mates too.[3]

He also stated that most successful niche sites pair people by race, sexual orientation or religion.[4] The 20 most popular dating sites this year as ranked by Hitwise include JDate (for Jewish singles), Christian Mingle and Christian Cafe, Manhunt (for gay men), Love From India, Black Christian People Meet, Amigos (for Latino singles), Asian People Meet, and Shaadi (for Indian singles). [4] In March 2008, the top 5 overall sites held 7% less market share than they did one year ago while the top sites from the top five major niche dating categories made considerable gains. [5]

One of the hottest trends is the Babyboomers on the top dating sites. Around 30% of the nation’s 80 million Baby Boomers are single.[6]

A Net dating service, also known as online dating or Internet dating, is an example of a dating system and allows individuals, couples and groups to meet online and possibly develop a romantic or sexual relationship. Net dating services provide un-moderated matchmaking through the use of personal computers, the Internet, or even cell phones.

Such services generally allow people to provide personal information, then search for other individuals using criteria such as age range, gender and location. Most sites allow members to upload photos of themselves and browse the photos of others. Sites may offer additional services, such as webcasts, online chat, and message boards. Sites sometimes allow people to register for free but may offer services which require a monthly fee.

Many sites are broad-based, with members from a variety of backgrounds looking for different types of relationships. Other sites are more specific, based on the type of members, interests, location, or relationship desired.

• Regular date.
• Double date: two couples meet for an activity.
• Group date: an activity shared by two or more couples.
• Blind date: a date where the participants have not met each other personally before (although may have seen each other’s pictures); usually set up by a third party or an internet dating service.
• Long Distance / Holidating: Due to a long distance relationship, dating only when one, or both parties are on holiday or vacation and are together during that time period.

In 2006, according to the Office for National Statistics, only 22.8 men per
1,000 unmarried men aged 16 and over got married, down from 24.5 a year
earlier. Among women, the rate was 20.5, down from 21.9. These are the
lowest rates since data on marriage was first collected in 1862.

A total of 236,980 marriage ceremonies were performed in 2006, or four per
cent fewer compared to 2005.

Jill Kirby, director of the London-based Centre for Policy Studies, warned
that the nation cannot afford to let marriage be “lost as the core
institution of society.”

“A clear reason for concern is that research demonstrates how important
marriage is to maintain stability for children,” she told The Guardian. “The
break-up of cohabiting couples is much higher than married couples.
Cohabitation is clearly not a satisfactory arrangement as far as children
are concerned.”

At a deeper level, said Frank Furedi, a professor of sociology at the
University of Kent, the numbers suggest “more and more people are not able
to have close relationships. People who are not married feel they resonate
with the times,” he told The Times.

In Canada, the institution of marriage also continues to erode same as  dating. Last year,
Statistics Canada revealed that for the first time ever, a majority of
Canadians aged 15 years and older (51.5 per cent) reported being single -
never married, divorced, separated or widowed. Twenty years earlier, that
figure had stood at 38.6 per cent.

Source: http://www.fotf.ca/tfn/family/stories/2008/080402.html

17% of Americans think it is OK to break up via email, according to a poll conducted for the TV game show, Power of 10, which premiered tonight on CBS.

A male and female contestant were competing against each other to see which could come closest and win the round as a result of dating. The Power of 10 host, Drew Carey, posed the question:

“What percentage of American’s think it’s acceptable to break up with someone via email?”

The male contestant answered 11% and the female contestant answered 19%. The answer was 17%, giving the victory for the round to the female who was only 2 percentage points off.

The O’Reilly Factor on Wednesday labeled reputation management service Don’t Date Him Girl as a hate site. Don’t Date Him Girl allows women to post names, pictures, and personal information of men they’ve dated along with narrative on how bad that person is. Many women are allowed to sign their posts anonymously while making unproven accusations against men they name. The controversial service has been around a few years and has faced at least one lawsuit from a man posted to the service.

To open the segment, O’Reilly said:

“As we’ve been telling you, there and hundreds - maybe thousands - of hate dating Websites available for your perusal. One of them is called Don’t Date Him Girl…”

For the segment, host Bill O’Reilly interviewed Mary Katharine Ham, editor of TownHall.com. Ham said the following in the show:

“This is a really pretty nasty dating Website where women who are upset with their ex’s, as women often are, go on and say pretty nasty things about them - allegations which largely cannot be proven, but are out there in print and these guys have to suffer from the fact that they are out there…”

In the same segment, two more sites were called out, including one called Fire in the Hole where teens film things like going to drive-thru, ordering a drink, then throwing the drink at the employee and speeding off. In addition, another site was chastised for allowing men and women to “create an alibi” so that they can get assistance lying about a business trip, etc. in order to have an affair without getting caught.

Thirty percent of women who use online dating services have had sex on a first date, according to a study by Sexuality Research & Social Policy, a journal of the National Sexuality Research Center. The research was conducted by Paige M. Padgett, Ph.D., and published in the June 2007 issue of the journal. The name of the study is Personal Safety and Sexual Safety for Women Using Online Personal Ads.

While the 30% of women having sex on the first date may surprise people, even more shocking is that out of that number, 77% of them didn’t use any protection during the sexual encounters. Some online dating services make it easy for people to meet up for sexual encounters by offering “Intimate” or “Erotic” services to members.

“Risky behaviour like this, from both males and females, is contributing to the dramatic rise of sexually trasmitted diseases,” says Joe Tracy, Publisher of Online Dating Magazine. Online Dating Magazine, a consumer watchdog publication for online daters, also contains an STD Info Center with educational information about sexually transmitted diseases. “When you have unprotected sex with people you are meeting online, you are playing russian roullette with your health. It’s not a matter of ‘if’ you’ll get a sexually transmitted disease, but rather ‘when’ and ‘how many’.”

Safety measures some women use before meeting a man, according to the study, are:

1) Googling him.

2) Running a background check.

3) Not giving any personal information (like address, phone number, etc.).

4) Revisit subjects already discussed to see if the man is lying.

5) Gut instinct.

The study shows a strong popularity of online daters using email to communicate with each other. Some women set sex boundaries via email, others made it clear there would be no sex on the first date, and others didn’t discuss the subject at all.

The study showed that neary 3/4ths of those who had sexual encounters never discussed STDs or AIDS. And email apparently played a major role in how far intimacy went so quick. From the abstract:

“The high frequency and intensity of email communication prior to meeting in person cultivated acceleration of intimacy for the individuals involved and may have affected somen’s decisions to engage in risky sexual behaviours.”

The study used a survey placed on various online dating services and targetting women. The survey was completed by 740 women of which 568 said they had met someone in person. While 30% had sex on the first date, some were specifically looking for that.

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