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Writing High-Quality Dating Profiles-part3

Friday, October 24th, 2008

A picture says a thousand words

Clip a photo that’s realistic and not misleading. There are all sorts of pictures that
people post on the web which are quite dishonest, a bit obscene, of poor quality,
and sometimes too formal. The best photo should reveal the normal “you”, since, if
you are dead set on meeting someone you don’t want her to get the shock of her life.
Some photos are lewd and show too much skin just to catch attention. If you are
seriously into online dating site, post a clear, sunny picture of yourself - this is sure to elicit
positive responses from people. Don’t glamorize yourself or post a picture of you
wearing a high school toga.

Polish your profile
Choose the right words and use your grammar or spelling program to polish your
profile. People care about your spelling and grammar because it reflects your
education. At least, show some decency when creating your profile, “The difference
between the right word and the almost right word is the difference between
lightning and a lightning bug,” says Mark Twain. If you’ve written your profile in a
hurry, don’t attempt to post it yet when you have not proofread it for grammatical
and spelling errors. Use your handy word processor programs to clean it for possible
mistakes.
Research the competition
This is what we call the “look, listen, and learn” step. Go ahead and search for
yourself after you’ve published your ad. If you see yourself in the page of search
results and your existing ad doesn’t “jump” off the page at you as a reader – consider
revising your ad to play off the surrounding.
For example, you search for your ad only to find that you’re surrounded mostly by
guys using cheesy one-liners and looking for something to screw in between football
games you might modify your ad title/introduction to say something like;
“Waiter, I ordered my pickup lines without cheese”
“While they’re watching football, we can watch a movie”

Be original but don’t overdo it.
Your originality is a major factor for an attractive profile. Search yourself for any
unusual interests and unique characteristics. If you like art, for instance, mention
specifically if you’ve ever painted or done some digital designing yourself, and what
kind of design software you like to use. A good novel writer does not use bland
adjectives and describe in nebulous concepts. You’re not a novel writer but your goal
is to make your online profile more interesting. All of us have normal ways of doing
things but if you got something to tell - a passion for exotic animals, or a collection
of snow gears - don’t hesitate to include it in your profile.

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Writing High-Quality Dating Profiles-part2

Friday, October 24th, 2008

The introduction is your own personal summary
Your introduction should be just as attractive. When you compose your introduction
line it must be intriguing enough to compel your reader to continue on. Generally
you’re limited on the size of your introduction to anywhere from a few hundred
words up to 1,000. Make this count and keep it pretty much to the point.
Avoid clichés like the plague
Don’t bother with clichés and other trite phrases. Being unoriginal and typecast may
work for bands like Nickleback but it won’t get you laid - avoid the usual titles at all
costs. The secret is to be as specific as possible: name a strange incident or
experience, an eerie quote from your favorite author, or a bit of a background that
would define who you are. I personally find it best to write a draft first then revise
it, which brings us to the next topic…
Some common clichés that you see all the time:
Love is a many splendored thing.
It sure is, but this cliché is used so often that no “love” will come from it.
All things grow with love.
Again, same situation. It sounds great but is so overused that it will not garnish any
attention.
Make it count, condense your draft.
No one wants to read a wordy profile that conveys no message. Many free online dating site profiles
suffer in the dark oblivion without hope of getting looked at because they fail to
relate anything interesting about the author to the person reading. You might be the
most romantic, handsome, charismatic guy in the world but you’re online appearance
is that of a 14 year old who can’t spell or form complete sentences. Put some time
into the “flow” of your summary. Make it count, it’s the second most important part
of your online profile.

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Writing High-Quality Dating Profiles-part1

Friday, October 24th, 2008

Not all people are blessed with the knack of writing an excellent dating profile.
Doing it is a lot like composing an ad that is meant to attract potential buyers - it has
to be convincing, appealing and honest (to a degree). If it’s your first time to design
your own dating profile, here are the nuts and bolts to guide you.

Just a little note to the ladies: Most of the examples I use are for men. Women tend
not to have problems getting responses from guys inside online dating sites (guys usually
blast out messages to just about anyone, women are more specific). If you need
advice on writing a good female ad many of these rules still apply, so fear not and
keep reading.

Titles are the most important part of an ad
Use a catchy and interesting title. Since everyone is going to read your profile, you
should make it as original, honest and easy to remember as possible. Get your ideas
from your own interests , experiences, and personality but don’t just say you’re
spontaneous and exciting – prove it! Above all - you’ve got to be unique (very, very
unique)
Examples of good and bad titles:
Fun guy looking for fun girl.
Too general, no one looks for dull girls – an no fun girls look through dull profiles.
Let me show you what a real man is like.
Immediately after which they’ll show you the ‘block user button’ this is way to
intimidating and challenging to a mate.
Will you guide my way?
Approaching “decent” level profile title. It definitely stands out from the others but
most women are looking for a package with all it’s nuts and bolts – no assembly
required if you know what I mean.
LOST: True love, reward if found.
Bingo, though it’s pretty general the title is definitely unique and will get the reader
past the initial first click. The introduction should reflect a caring, compassionate,
and romantic person just like the title indicates.
Skydiving accountant seeking rock-climbing business woman
Another good one liner. The activity describes the person so much more than just an
adjective like “exciting” or “adventurous” could.

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do you hate to be left alone

Wednesday, July 30th, 2008

If you are the type who hates to be left alone by your partner, then we should leave before discovering that you even asked this question. If you put so much value for a quiz dates that you are willing to discontinue a relationship because someone “failed”, then probably you are not yet ready for dating.

You see, a dating game is written for entertainment purposes only. I am not trying to be sexist here, but it is usually written for girls and young woman, and are designed to smooth the natural your insecurities. It is biased towards a realistic view of what the perfect partner is the ideal partner does not exist.

I remember a dating quiz asked if my girlfriend came over to unlock the driver’s door after me the door to the passenger. If I answered “yes” then I will make a perfect woman. If I answered “No” then we should run away!

Come on, get real. If all that is needed to be a perfect woman would never be any divorces.

My point, with the risk of repeating myself, is that online dating quiz should not be taken seriously. In fact, there is a good possibility that should not be taken at all. The common sense knows whether or not someone you are dating is good or bad for you. We need some overworked writer, working against a deadline to fill some white space in a magazine or a website, to tell you whether or not you have a landfill on the basis of your answers in a quiz free dating. If you are not someone worth dating, it is.

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Do you need to pay to get her attention

Sunday, June 29th, 2008

It’s the topic of PAYING FOR THINGS FOR WOMEN at free online dating

This includes paying for drinks and dinners,
buying her gifts and taking her out to shows.

The question is: “Should I pay?”

Most guys feel OBLIGATED to pay if they go out
with a woman on a date.

Most guys feel COMPELLED to buy women gifts,
flowers, etc. and “take women out” to “show them a
good time”.

In fact, the “standard” approach for many guys
is simply asking a woman “Can I take you out
sometime?”

Of course, there’s ALWAYS more than meets the
eye when it comes to these kinds of issues, and
this one is no exception.

Take a moment and ask yourself this question:

WHAT’S REALLY GOING ON HERE? WHY DO MEN USUALLY
BUY THINGS FOR WOMEN? WHAT’S THE REAL ISSUE?

If you’re willing to be completely open and
honest about it, you’ll realize that most men:

1) Use dinners, flowers, gifts, and other “favors”
as bait and/or payment for women’s time and
attention.

2) Don’t feel deep down like an ATTRACTIVE woman
would want to be with them JUST BECAUSE SHE
ENJOYED THEIR COMPANY and felt ATTRACTION for
them.

3) Have no idea what the ACTUAL affect of trying
to lure women with these kinds of things is.

4) <MOST IMPORTANTLY> DON’T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO.

I can remember when I used to think that I
needed to always take a woman out, buy them
dinner, and pay for whatever I could think of to
get a woman’s attention.

It was really a horrible feeling.

The worst part was that the more nice things I
did for women when I first met them, the more
apprehensive and “standoffish” they seemed to act.

It was almost as if they interpreted my actions
as ME TRYING TOO HARD, and they instinctively
played “hard to get” in response.

The question of “Should I pay for dinner?” is
as old as dirt. So let me answer it with one of my
typical multi-part answers.

And the first part of my answer is going to be
another question to YOU…

WHY WOULD YOU PAY FOR A WOMAN’S DINNER?

And for that matter, why would you buy gifts
and do favors for a woman that you just met and
don’t know?

IT’S PROBABLY BECAUSE YOU WANT SOMETHING.

And guess what?

Attractive women are VERY perceptive. They can
usually size a guy up in a matter of SECONDS.

Article is from newsletter from David Deangelo

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Dating Coach Technique

Wednesday, May 21st, 2008

Dating coaches may coach through electronic books, one-on-one coaching, small group seminars, and weekend workshops. One-on-one coaching can involve counseling and in-the-field coaching[6], which can involve practicing flirting[1] They teach how to conduct better conversations, how to dress, how to hug appropriately, and anything else that may help achieve success in dating.[7] Common elements of dating coaches’ tips include the need to decide what you are looking for and remain positive.[1]

According to Joanie Edelberg, an advantage of seeking advice from a dating coach rather than from a friend is that the coach may be willing to be more honest.[6] Indeed, one of the main points of a dating coach is to candidly point out less-than-helpful behavior.[1] Dating coaches may simply encourage a person to work on staying happy and thankful for the many positive things that fill their life. This happy attitude will radiate outwards - attracting others.[8]

Some dating coaches specialize in helping with online dating.[9] This could include helping people rewrite their online profiles to obtain better results,[10] start initial email conversations, get professional photo shoots, and so on.

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TurnOffs for women while dating

Thursday, May 15th, 2008

Singletons trying to impress the opposite sex, listen up! Forget fancy dinners, fast cars or pop-tart cleavage. As Aretha Franklin once crooned (and many would attest), the ultimate weapon of seduction is simply this: the very first kiss. So you’d better make it count …

To me, kissing is one of life’s greatest pleasures along with cookies and cream ice cream, designer handbags (which I can’t afford but like to drool at anyway) and men who call back when they say they will (sigh).
Sam Dating Expert

So you can imagine my shock horror when a colleague I’d fancied for what seemed like forever, (albeit one who looked just like Jude Law circa the nanny-cheating debacle), leaned in to kiss me at a drunken office cocktail party.

Oh the joy! The elation! The weak-at-the-knees swoon-worthy moment! Or so I’d hoped.
While I’d expected pizzazz, fireworks and spine tingling sensations, I was utterly disappointed to emerge from the pash feeling like I’d just licked the inside of an ashtray. Argh. And to make matters worse, he was still holding his lit cigarette when I excused myself from his embrace, almost burning my new Witchery skirt in the process. (Suffice to say I was in no uncertain rush to kiss the lad again anytime soon.)

While many singletons wax lyrical over the myriad dating turn-offs, (which run the gamut of whacky eating habits to bad body odor, awkward dress sense and eerie bathroom habits), it seems there’s one particular turn off that gets singletons all fired up: smoking. And it seems I’m not alone in my disdain.

A quick scroll through a bunch of RSVP member profiles (for journalism purposes of course), finds a number of folks actually stipulate a “non-smoker” as their partner of preference.
Smokers are feeling the burn too with a recent RSVP survey finding a whopping 73 per cent believe their habit made it tougher to meet a mate!

Adding fuel to the no-smoking fire is the fact that 90 per cent of respondents claimed smoking is the ultimate relationship turn-off.

So what’s the solution? Douse yourself in a can of Lynx or bottle of Chanel No.5 before the big date? Lay your habit out on the table hoping they’ll like you for you, not your breath?
By my reckoning, why not throw your packet in the bin, grab some Nicabate* (patches, lozenges or gum) and save your money for a new iPod or some swoon-worthy designer handbags? At least you’ll be assured your kisses will taste sugary sweet …

By Samantha Brett, Author and ASK SAM! dating columnist

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Some tips to meet women

Thursday, May 15th, 2008

Approaching Women Tip 1. Observe something. Make a comment about something you observe in the environment. This is especially effective at the grocery store. For example, if she is ordering a turkey sandwich, ask her if the turkey is good here.

“Make your comment immediate to the situation”

Make your comment immediate to the situation and it will seem perfectly natural. No matter where you are, there is always something interesting to comment on.

Approaching Women Tip 2. Smile. This shows her that you are friendly and confident. A genuine smile not only feels good to you, but will put her at ease while creating openness in the interaction — a requirement for building rapport.

Approaching Women Tip 3. Do not hesitate. If you hesitate in your approach, this tells her that you are not feeling confident — an immediate turn-off. When you see her, walk over to her within a short period of time (the three-second rule). Show her you are a man who knows what he wants and goes after it.

Approaching Women Tip 4. Positive body language. If you approach hunched over with your head down, you are sending negative information about yourself, which makes you dead in the water before you begin. Stand up straight, with shoulders back and chest out, and use a firm yet relaxed walk.

Approaching Women Tip 5. Not too fast. If you walk over too fast, you could likely trigger her internal alarm. A calm, casual approach is usually the best way to make her feel at ease with you.

Approaching Women Tip 6. Keep eye contact. Never be the first to break eye contact when you approach. If you do, this sends the message that you are not feeling good about approaching. When you use strong eye contact, she will feel more drawn to you. With practice, you can master this.

Approaching Women Tip 7. Listen up. Make sure you pay careful attention to what she says. Do not have your response pre-thought out. Women love a man who pays attention to the details of what she says. If you start throwing out random words, she will lose interest fast.

Approaching Women Tip 8. Do not fidget. Fidgeting after you approach is distracting and shows you are uncomfortable. If you communicate that you are uncomfortable, she will feel uncomfortable, too, and will close up. Practice being aware of your movements. Pay attention to those movements, or lack of movements, that communicate comfort and confidence.

Approaching Women Tip 9. Lighten your tone of voice. The tone of your voice is a very powerful tool. Approaching her in a light and playful tone is one of the best ways to start. You could also begin in a serious tone, accusing her of something like ”

“I hope you saved some turkey for me”

I hope you saved some turkey for me,” followed by a quick smile to let her know you are joking. Practice playing with your vocal tone with your friends — notice the different reactions you get when you say the exact same thing using varied tones and fluctuations.

Approaching Women Tip 10. Lean away from her. A man who leans in too far when he talks often makes a woman feel crowded. A better approach is to lean away from her slightly. This lets her know that you respect her space, boundaries, and are comfortable with yourself.

The key to making these tips work for you is putting them into practice! Practice these tips and see the reaction you get. When you put them all together, you will be surprised at their power.

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Dating is not a fair game

Tuesday, May 13th, 2008

Original author: David deangelo

I want to talk about the fact that Dating isn’t
a “fair” game, and what to do about it…

First off, I want to mention that LIFE isn’t
fair. In case you haven’t noticed, almost NOTHING
is fair.

Fairness is an idea that people have created. I
think we probably created the concept to torture
ourselves, in fact.

Here are a few ways that life isn’t “fair”, as
the concept relates to women and dating:

1) Some men are taller, and some are shorter.
Women tend to prefer taller men. How unfair.

2) A very small portion of the women that are
alive are as perfect and beautiful as the women in
Playboy and other magazines, and therefore it’s
impossible for every man to have a woman that is
this beautiful. How unfair.

3) Many men go their entire lives without ever
having sex. How unfair.

4) Some men have sex with hundreds or even
thousands of women in their lives. How unfair.

5) Some men know the secrets of creating that
magical emotion called ATTRACTION inside of women
even though they aren’t rich, handsome, tall, etc.
and wind up having their choice of beautiful young
women. How unfair.

The point I’m trying to make is that LIFE
ISN’T FAIR!

Dating isn’t fair, either.

Sometimes a woman will respond positively to
you, then the next day she’ll act strange.

Sometimes a specific technique will work for
you, and sometimes it won’t.

Sometimes you’ll feel great and confident
inside, and sometimes you won’t.

Now, most people don’t like the idea that life
(and dating) aren’t fair. They get upset when
things don’t go their way, place too much meaning
on things that happen to them and responses they
get from women, and generally act like life should
be different.

Of course, this is CRAZY.

The more that I realized this fact… that life
just isn’t fair… the more that I realized
another PROFOUND truth:

IT’S GREAT NEWS!

If life were “fair”, then you wouldn’t be able
to do anything to change your personal success.
You’d get what everyone else was getting.

But, the fact is that you CAN change your
personal success in any area you want (including
dating).

And the best part of this good news is that you
can not only get better and better, but you can
actually turn the tables around in YOUR FAVOR.

You can improve so much that you are actually
at an ADVANTAGE when it comes to women and dating.

So, if the idea that “life isn’t fair” is such
great news, then why aren’t more people thinking
of it this way?

I personally think that most people aren’t
WILLING to get up off of their couch, put the
remote down, and actually invest the time and
effort required to become GREAT at something.

So, I’d like you to do something right now.

Take a moment, and make the decision and
commitment to yourself that you’re going to TAKE
ACTION in the areas of your life that you want to
improve, and you’re going to do what it takes to
stay on track until you get the results that
you’re looking for.

Can you make that commitment to yourself?

Can you FOLLOW THROUGH on that commitment?

The most important decision I made in terms of
my dating success was the fateful night that I
decided that I was going to get this part of my
life handled… NO MATTER WHAT.

Have YOU made this decision yet?

If not, then make it RIGHT NOW.

Bottom line:

Online Dating isn’t fair… and that’s great news.

When you turn the tables in your favor, you can
create success that most men will only dream
about. Really.

By the way…

Another problem is that a lot of people don’t
know where to START. They don’t know how to get on
the right track and where to learn things that
actually work.

When I first decided that I had to learn how to
meet and attract women for myself, I spent
probably a year or two “wandering around” trying
to find out what worked.

I ran in a lot of circles trying things that
sounded like good ideas… but wound up being B.S.

Then, once I finally figured out some of the
ideas, techniques and skills it was going to take
to really become great at this, it took awhile to
really learn the skills and practice them to the
point where I could use them and have predictable
success with them.

Why am I telling you this?

Because I’d like to save you some of the time,
effort, expense and hassle that I put into
figuring out all of my secrets… and I’d like to
help you swing the odds in your favor when it
comes to women.

I’d like you to take advantage of the fact that
I’ve spent literally thousands of hours learning
as much as I possibly could about how to meet and
date attractive women, and I’ve spent thousands
more organizing this information and putting it
together in a way that you can pick up and use
IMMEDIATELY to get better results with women.

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summer dates

Sunday, May 11th, 2008

Some unique dating ideas to try before summer wraps up.

  • Go to an outdoor music festival
  • Check out your local county fair
  • Pack up a picnic and go for a hike
  • Check out the animals at the zoo
  • Get some healthy eats and beautiful flowers at the Farmer’s Market
  • Pick your favorite horse and place a bet at the race track
  • Ride some roller coasters at your favorite amusement park
  • Go for a bike ride and stop for some ice cream to take a break

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Something women should look for when Dating

Sunday, May 11th, 2008
    Some tips for dating women.

  • Does he carry himself with confidence?
  • Did he complain about every aspect of his life?
  • Does he appear trustworthy, dependable and honest?
  • Do we have good chemistry? Am I attracted to him?
  • Do I like his sense of humor? Does he have one? Did we have fun together?
  • Was he complimentary? Did he say something positive about the way I look?
  • Did he only have eyes for me? Or was he interested in other women in the room?
  • Is he a good communicator? Did he listen and appear to be interested in what I had to say?
  • Is he well groomed with good hygiene? Clothes clean and pressed?
  • Is he interesting? Did we engage easily in conversation or was it a struggle? Did he only talk about himself?
  • Is he intelligent? Does he seem interested in life? Is he the type of man who makes things happen?
  • Does he have good manners? Did he show me consideration and treat me with respect? Is he polite to others? Was he insulting about his exes?

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