Sometime the desire to marry is largely about fairy tale visions of life lived happily ever after. For women it begins with the wedding experience itself: white silk and flowers, diamond rings and chiffon, bridesmaids, showers and blissful romance. After marriage: love, security, romance, a house in the suburbs and beautiful babies. For mean, its love, someone waiting at the end of the day, a helper and a mother to their children, the expectations vary from one individual to the next, but with the fantasy connection there always the sense that getting married will solve most of life’s problems and bring ultimate happiness.
Marrying as a fantasy impulse is dangerous. The reality of marriage can never measure up to these visions of perfect bliss. Instead of the romantic suitor she was expecting, she comes home to someone who’s tire and grouchy and who immediately retreats behind the newspaper. Real relationships are about love caring and respect between two partners who are committed to being the best they can be for each other. Romance is the spark that ignites the love, which becomes the glue that initially binds them together. But romance eventually fades, to some degree and other priorities demand our energies which you never expected when you where dating each other for a long time and thought same romance will last forever.